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Handbook
Beginning the Mentor
Relationship
Your first meeting with your mentee is often the most
important one you are likely to have. At best, it will serve as
the foundation from which you and your mentee will build a mutually
rewarding and meaningful relationship. Try to have a game plan for
the first meeting. Building a relationship depends on both parties
involved, but as a mentor you are in the best position to influence
a positive beginning. As a mentor, you can schedule a time that
is comfortable for both of you in a convenient setting. Arrange
an informal environment that is free from distractions and interruptions
(library, grill, the ravine, or your office). Demonstrate enthusiasm
and goodwill. It has been noted that nobody cares how much you know,
until they've seen how much you care. Initiate measured and appropriate
leadership of the conversation.
Moving through the scheduled time (an hour is often
sufficient), you can include the following:
- Establish common interests and experiences by exchanging personal
information as well as professional information. Appropriate
family information, career interests, hobbies, affiliations
at EKU and travel are all good conversation topics.
- Exchange knowledge of and assumptions about the mentoring
relationship. For example, "What needs do I have as a mentor
or mentee that can be met in this relationship? What are my
responsibilities as a mentor? As a mentee?" Be honest.
- Pursue in greater depth discussion of some interests or concerns
that might emerge.
- Exchange e-mail addresses and telephone numbers (if needed).
All phone numbers are especially useful to obtain.
- Initiate closure to the meeting by rephrasing your understanding
of the mentee-mentor relationship, expressing your feelings
about your first meeting, and by inviting your mentee to share
his/her views.
- Schedule a mutually agreeable time for your next meeting.
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